If you’re an athiest or an asshole, move on…

Last Tuesday I was reading the update on Peoria’s 8th murder in the parking lot of the Church of the Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. It turned out to be suicide, and as I read the comments, I found one particularly touching. I don’t know if it was just the mood I was in at the moment, or the general feeling that our city is imploding, but I thought it too good to be buried in the comments section of the local updates section. Heck, I was already mad about the murder #7. I decided that I would reprint it, but before I did, I emailed the author to ask if what she wrote was true.

Her response: “Everything I wrote I saw, I did not hear the gunshot and just happened to see the first police car pull up and looked out like anyone naturally would.

So, yes I saw as they tried to revive him and the girl friend being taken away screaming, I watched as everything went from a bit of hope to hopeless…..he was gone. And as they covered his body in the sheets. Then a group of his family came screaming. From my bedroom window you could see everything lying in my bed and so I still saw as they took pics of his body and the corner came to pick the body up. It was just all very sad.”

Reprint of the Journal Star comment, with permission of the author:

Last night, I witnessed a very tragic and unfortunate incident. A young man and his girlfriend pulled their car into the church parking lot next door to my condo, the young man got out the car and shot himself in the head and took his own life. We are living in a time were people are struggling for there lives, they are stressed, overwhelmed, depressed these are…….hard times. People are turning to everything but GOD!

As I watched people outside screaming, and different ones trying to revive the young man, as they pulled the sheets over his body my heart became very heavy. I didn’t know him, but so many questions ran through my head, I wanted to understand so bad, what was he thinking? What was so horrible that caused him to give up the fight for his life, when God had not given up on him? Why did he feel like no one had the answer? As I mature, I’m learning that life is a journey and we don’t always understand where we are and why we are there, but we trust that the Master is holding us in his hands. We trust that God has the map to our life and knows the end results. Sometimes people loose that hope, and that is when they need to be reminded that they are loved and someone still cares, we are human.

I shared this story with the people I loved because you never know who you may come across one day and you never know why God puts people in your life, but stop to think if there just might be purpose.

Whether it be a mother, a father, sister, or brother. Or maybe it’s a wife, a husband or just a girlfriend or a boyfriend or even simply just a friend there is “Purpose in Relationship”. Make sure the ones you love, know you love them. When you say you love someone mean it, you never know whose heart you hold in your hands. Be careful of whose heart you break, you never know how powerful that key is. There is also responsibility in relationship, no matter what kind of relationship it might be. If it’s a ear to listen, a shoulder to cry on, a word of advise, or a prayer when they cross your mind, there is responsibility in relationship. I pray I’m playing my roll in any relationship God has blessed me with. I pray I am able to speak life into someone as I continue this journey and we can stop loosing people to senseless deaths. I hope your prayers are the same.

Remember, “No matter how hard life gets when you hit the very bottom of the barrel the only way to go from there is up.” We don’t have bad day’s just some days are better then others.

9 Responses to “If you’re an athiest or an asshole, move on…”

  1. Mahkno Says:

    You had to title this heartfelt piece with such an ignorant title? Disappointing…

  2. Raoul Duke Says:

    Well done, nice read.
    and I am both an asshole and an athiest.

  3. Josh Carter Says:

    Good read, but change the title…it contradicts religious beliefs and being tolerant (everything religion stands for)

  4. Johanna Says:

    I like the title. It provoked people who are both assholes and/or atheists to read it (and comment on it), which is the point of a free society, unfettered free speech, and open dialog, is it not? I certainly read it after reading the title, not that I consider myself an asshole or an atheist, but I am certainly a bitch and an agnostic, which some people might consider close enough.

    I thought the woman’s comments were very touching, even though I personally do not agree with the god stuff. I do not think a belief in god will save you from suicide, heartbreak, or anything else bad. Actually, I think belief in god, to the exclusion of other ideals and realities, brings on more hardship and heartbreak. But I am very hard-line on my religious feelings and suicide is a sensitive issue at the moment as my cousin attempted suicide on Easter weekend. He was not successful and did not harm himself long term and has suffered from mental problems most of his life (he is 26), so I think it was a good wake-up call for his parents, who had been pretty much ignoring his issues.

    Anyway, what I found very touching about the post were her comments about relationships - being good to the people you have relationships with, no matter what those relationships are. Think of all of the relationships you have at this very moment - father, mother, son, daughter, friend, customer, citizen, fellow blogger. Shouldn’t we all strive to be better to those we interact with? Shouldn’t we spread more joy than negativity? Shouldn’t we try to be more positive and honest everyday?

    That is the real lesson from these comments, a very good lesson, which has nothing to do with god, really, just being a good person. And being a good person has absolutely nothing to do with whether you believe in god.

  5. PeoriaIllinoisan Says:

    I stand by my title.

  6. Cory Says:

    Seems a bit petty for commentors to argue over the title, considering the subject of the piece. That’s just my opinion.

  7. Brad Carter Says:

    I was listening to my scanner and it sounds like #8 happened happened an hour ago or so

  8. Vonster Says:

    You saying you don’t want Knighty here?

  9. TearIzUp Says:

    Excellent Post. My compliments to the author.
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